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  After reading this text, join Ransford Education Online to get more Here’s a simple little maxim: You get treated the way you teach people to treat you. So if you don’t like the way you’re being treated by someone in your life, look at how you’ve taught them to treat you.   Self-defeating people see reality for what it is, but they don’t want to accept it. They wish it were different, and they complain about it: “If only you were more like me, then I wouldn’t have to be upset at you right now. If only you were something different from what you are, I could be happier in my life.    If only oil prices hadn’t gone up, if only unemployment weren’t the way it is, if only, if only . . .” They look at the world and come to the conclusion that they should blame somebody else. You can tell by the vocabulary they use, by the very words that come out of their mouths. They say things like, “Please don’t bother me. I can’t—I’m having an anxiety attack.” Now, there is no creat...

After reading this text, join Ransford to get more Think for a minute about an orange. When you squeeze it as hard as you can, what comes out? Orange juice, of course. But the question is, why does juice come out when an orange is squeezed? The answer is, because that is what’s inside.   Now, does it matter who does the squeezing? Does it matter how you do it, what instrument you use, or what time of the day you do it? No. When you squeeze an orange, what always comes out is what’s inside. Similarly, when you squeeze a person—that is, put pressure on them of any kind—and anger and hatred and stress and depression come out, it isn’t because of who is doing the squeezing or when they do it or how they choose to do it. It’s because that is what’s inside that person. If you don’t have it inside, it can never come out, no matter what your circumstances are. When somebody cuts you off on the freeway and you’re mad as hell, it isn’t because they cut you off that you’re so upset; it’s bec...