John Iduh Blog

  After reading this text, join Ransford Education Online to get more Here’s a simple little maxim: You get treated the way you teach people to treat you. So if you don’t like the way you’re being treated by someone in your life, look at how you’ve taught them to treat you.   Self-defeating people see reality for what it is, but they don’t want to accept it. They wish it were different, and they complain about it: “If only you were more like me, then I wouldn’t have to be upset at you right now. If only you were something different from what you are, I could be happier in my life.    If only oil prices hadn’t gone up, if only unemployment weren’t the way it is, if only, if only . . .” They look at the world and come to the conclusion that they should blame somebody else. You can tell by the vocabulary they use, by the very words that come out of their mouths. They say things like, “Please don’t bother me. I can’t—I’m having an anxiety attack.” Now, there is no creat...