John Iduh Blog

 Especially when someone you ever talk with, and often socialize with was gone Especially when the hands of time was hard to turn back But your neck remains on your neck. It hurts when profound change comes knocking It hurts. And indeed it hurts.

 There is one thing I know that brings pain. I mean the painful pain Not the pains when you got wounded Not the pains when someone disappoints you The pains when someone you ever with, chat, discuss and share words with is gone. I mean the pain that emerges from cuts from socializing with that person It pains when someone you ever love was gone It pains when someone you ever live with or see everyday, now and often travel or walk off and left you. The pain is painful. But no one has an eye to see the colours of pain.

Wives worry and fear that they might lose their husband to other women Husbands experience heart-broken that their wives were cheating  This fear engulf many across geographies.  What should a wife or husband do instead? The fact is that cheating is universalistic. If your husband was able to love you, what made you think that he cannot love another woman possibly? While I don't support or subscribe to the behaviour as it's against the societal moral standards, just like fornication, cheating will continue to exist. No amount of prayer, laws and regulations can totally eliminate the fornication habit that leads to cheating Because the eyes is capable of beholding, of appreciating and of loving what it admires. If we fornicate to buy a well package mobile phone, cars, clothes and beautiful homes. If the eyes must behold to admire. If we can love beautiful things. What make you think that your husband or a wife cannot do otherwise? One solution is to advise, educate and persuade

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 If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a current event, the past or future experiences, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system. Throughout life, the two most futile emotions are guilt for what has been done and worry about what might be done.  Guilt means that you use up your present moments being immobilized as a result of past behavior, while worry is the contrivance that keeps you immobilized in the now about something in the future—frequently something over which you have no control.  You can see this clearly if you try to think of yourself as feeling guilty about an event that has yet to occur, or to worry about something that has happened.  Although one response is to the future and the other to the past, they both serve the identical purpose of keeping you upset or immobile in your present moment.  Robert Jones Burdette wrote in Golden Day:  It isn’t the experience of today that drives men mad. It is the remorse fo

 Think for a minute about an orange. When you squeeze it as hard as you can, what comes out? Orange juice, of course.  But the question is, why does juice come out when an orange is squeezed?  The answer is, because that is what’s in the orange.  Now, does it matter who does the squeezing?  Does it matter how you do it, what instrument you use, or what time of the day you do it?  No.  When you squeeze an orange, what always comes out is what’s inside.  Similarly, when you squeeze a person—that is, put pressure on them of any kind—and anger and hatred and stress and depression come out, it isn’t because of who is doing the squeezing or when they do it or how they choose to do it.  It’s because that is what’s inside that person. If you don’t have it inside, it can never come out, no matter what your circumstances are.  When somebody cuts you off on the freeway and you’re mad as hell, it isn’t because they cut you off that you’re so upset; it’s because that is what you carry around inside

 Guilt is not merely a concern with the past; it is a present-moment immobilization about a past event. And the degree of immobilization can run from mild upset to severe depression.  If you are simply learning from your past, and vowing to avoid the repetition of some specific behavior, this is not guilt. You experience guilt only when you are prevented from taking action now as a result of having behaved in a certain way previously. Learning from your mistakes is healthy and a necessary part of growth.  Guilt is unhealthy because you are ineffectively using up your energy in the present feeling hurt, upset and depressed about a historical happening. And it’s futile as well as unhealthy.  No amount of guilt can ever undo anything.